{"id":599,"date":"2019-06-18T14:25:14","date_gmt":"2019-06-18T13:25:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/vps31252.alfahosting-vps.de\/wordpress\/?page_id=599"},"modified":"2020-05-27T08:15:08","modified_gmt":"2020-05-27T07:15:08","slug":"acutegeneralinformationsupport6_parentalguilt_en","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/?page_id=599&lang=en","title":{"rendered":"Parental Guilt"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"page-content\">\n<p>Many parents whose children have experienced a traumatic event are subsequently plagued by feelings of guilt. These often affect one\u2019s own well-being as well as the well-being of the child and the family.<\/p>\n<h3>\u00a0<\/h3>\n<h3>Self-blame<\/h3>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li>Many parents blame themselves for not preventing the traumatic event.<\/li>\n<li>Feelings of guilt and self-blame are often accompanied by anger, worries, and irritability.<\/li>\n<li>The persistent feelings of guilt can affect one\u2019s own well-being, family and parenting behavior.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>\u00a0<\/h3>\n<h3>Parenting behavior<\/h3>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li>Parents who struggle with feelings of guilt are often unable to help their child to cope with the trauma.\u00a0\u00a0<\/li>\n<li>Some parents become overprotective and try to protect their child from above all, so that it&#8217;s difficult for the child to experience an everyday life again.<\/li>\n<li>Conversely, there are also\u00a0 parents who show lenient and inconsistent parental behavior management towards their child because of the feelings of guilt.\u00a0\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>\u00a0<\/h3>\n<h2>Tips<\/h2>\n<h3>Accept negative emotions<\/h3>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li>The attempt to push your feelings of guilt aside usually doesn&#8217;t work well and only causes more distress.<\/li>\n<li>Try to accept both bad and good feelings and make room for them rather than struggling with them.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>\u00a0<\/h3>\n<h3>Label your thoughts<\/h3>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li>Remember that your thoughts do not necessarily reflect reality.<\/li>\n<li>Try to label your thoughts for what they are \u2013 thoughts \u2013 which come and go like clouds in the sky.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>\u00a0<\/h3>\n<h3>Focus on the present<\/h3>\n<ul style=\"list-style-type: square;\">\n<li>Try to think less about the things you can&#8217;t control, like the past and future, and try to focus on the present moment.<\/li>\n<li>Try to direct your attention onto your breathing or noticing 5 things related to your 5 senses (smell, touch, hear, see, and feel).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Many parents whose children have experienced a traumatic event are subsequently plagued by feelings of guilt. These often affect one\u2019s own well-being as well as the well-being of the child and the family. \u00a0 Self-blame Many parents blame themselves for not preventing the traumatic event. Feelings of guilt and self-blame are often accompanied by anger, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3545,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"ub_ctt_via":"","_mi_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"featured_image_src":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/Elterliche-Schuldgef\u00fchle_EN.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/599"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=599"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/599\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5760,"href":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/599\/revisions\/5760"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3545"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kidtrauma.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=599"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}